With so many millions of people in the world, why is breaking up so hard to do? I am just as guilty as anyone else when it comes to this, so not pointing anyone out. You can usually tell by a person’s social media status when they are going through a similar phase in their life. Many of our ‘friends’ are not all that sympathetic, however. You have the ‘eye-rollers’ who will discuss your situation with other so-called ‘friends’ with such comments as, “Why is she putting all of that out there? Who cares?” The problem is, you really believe that these are your friends and that they do care about you. And there will be a few who really do. At any rate, we are hurting and we want comfort.
But, back to the question at hand: Why??? These thoughts were brought on by reading a friend’s status that stated they were hurting a year later, and all I could think was, “Why???” Obviously, he has moved on with his life – why can’t you get on with yours? He was just one fish in this huge sea.
It’s because we’ve shared things with this person that we wouldn’t share with others. They know things about us that no one else will ever know, and they didn’t even appreciate the fact that we’ve bared our souls to them in a way we have not done with any other person. We know intimate details about them and accepted them, and now a new person will have to discover these on their own. Once you’ve gotten that close to a person, it is hard to start the process all over again.
It all changes us for the next person we allow into our lives. We become different; we turn hard and cold. We don’t like ourselves that way, and we hate ourselves for it. It takes time to open up to someone new. Then, when we do, we don’t trust like we used to. It’s not the new person’s fault, but it’s just the way it is. Therefore, we are more likely to go back to the person who hurt us. We are likely to do this over and over again, because this person knows us so well. They know how we tick. They know how to take advantage of us, yet we keep coming back for more. Or we can’t just let it go.