Cheating never seems so bad to the cheater. Sometimes it might really not be anything. There could come a time when you just want to give someone a simple kiss. (Yes, it could happen!) But a more meaningful kiss, such as with the tongue…? Well, that somehow never seems like such a bad thing to the partner who did it. But it can be devastating to the partner who’s had their heart ripped out over it.
When such an act is found out, there will always be doubts as to whether you can be trusted. After all – you know good and well that if you went so far as to French kiss someone, it wouldn’t take much more to take things a little further.
And, yes, even then you may have not taken it as seriously. It may have just been a few hours of fun to you. You and the person you cheated with just lived for the moment and let your bodies do what came naturally. No big thing, right?
But once you’ve cheated on your partner and gotten away with it, you probably wouldn’t have a problem doing it again. And again. The first “cheat” is usually the hardest because you do know it’s wrong. Then, once you’ve done it, you probably think, “Eh, what the heck.”
If you really love your partner, why would you even risk losing them over something so trivial? Why would you want to hurt them? Isn’t your life great when you are on a level with someone when you can share everything with them and not let the thoughts of another person distract you?
And, yes, sending flirty text messages that you know would upset your partner is wrong. But you knew that.
This is a huge problem in society. People cheat because they feel they can get away with it. Believe or not cheating is an addiction to so many people and they can’t help it. People are addicted to risk. No matter what the reason is, cheating is never a good reason.
I agree. Some people just love the attention. Once you have someone who loves you, you may just need to prove to yourself that you are still attractive to others. You are attractive, and you’ve attracted the right one. That should be enough, but for some, it isn’t.