Author Archives: iwant2belikeme

About iwant2belikeme

I am a freelance writer, audiobook narrator and occasional movie extra. I currently live in the small town of Fischbach bei Dahn, Germany, which is very close to the French border. I have previously lived throughout the US. I have traveled quite a bit, and love to share pictures! I also enjoy music and the nightlife! I probably should have started a blog a long time ago but I will now start sharing my stories and pictures for those who may be interested!

I’m Dying

Standard

I’m dying. And so are you. And so is everybody.

We are dying the moment we arrive. Actually, we are dying before that. We are dying in our mother’s womb. Some never even make it out alive. From the moment we are created, we are dying. Therefore, why don’t we live like it? Why don’t we live like we are dying?

So, then, why don’t we live like it? Why don’t we live like we are dying?

Our lives should be full of love and joy and living for the moment. You hear it all the time: “Live each day as if it were your last”. Yet, why don’t we?

UntitledOur impending death seems to always be forgotten. We whine and complain about aches and pains and all sorts of irrelevant things. Even then, death is the farthest thing from our minds. If we did think about it, though, we would probably not feel our pain as strongly. We would not complain about stupid, trivial things that our loved ones do.

If you’ve ever had someone who was close to you pass away, then you most likely thought back on all of the things you could have changed while they were alive. Even if you were close, there are always feelings of remorse about how you could have done something differently, and now it’s too late.

We think these thoughts and feel remorse for a while, and then we forget. We go back to our daily lives and routines until the next eye-opener.

When we are born, we come into this world just like everyone else. No matter what status or wealth our parents have, we all come in the same way. What we do with our lives is up to us. What we make of ourselves is up to us. When we are young, our lives are manipulated and shaped by other people. Once we become aware of life and our surroundings, it’s up to us to make something of ourselves.

Only by making it a habit of living our lives right from the beginning and teaching our children how precious life is, is the only way to fully enjoy the short time that we are given. It’s the way to set an example for future generations and maybe bring some peace to this world of hate we’ve become.

The Key To Success Is Sticking To Your Plan

Standard

When you decide to be your own boss, you’ll find that you have to be tougher on yourself than any other boss you’ve ever had. The best way to be successful is by setting goals and reaching them. In order to do that, you have to create a plan and stick to it, and that takes a lot of discipline!

checklist-1643781__340Mapping out your plan and following it is important, but your plan should be monitored and altered constantly. Times and trends change, so you have to keep up with what’s hot and what’s not. If you see that one method isn’t working, it’s time to come up with a change of plan.

If something isn’t working, it’s redundant to keep doing the same things. Whatever you do, don’t give up! If your idea was good for you, chances are, there are millions of other people who will benefit from it. Come up with new ideas. Change your approach. Do whatever it takes to make the money you need to survive, and, better yet, to be successful.

Read often and study what other people are doing to be successful.  Be sure to create your own methods and use your own style. That is what is going to make your product unique. When you make that leap to go into business for yourself, you have to be the strictest boss and the most hard-working employee, all in one. No matter what your niche is, the route to the top is all the same!

No matter what your niche is, the route to the top is all the same!

 

Caring For Others Starts With Caring For Ourselves

Standard

When it comes to taking care of others, we can’t do it until we take care of ourselves. Whether we are talking about our country helping others, or we, as a parent, want to provide for our children – until we are stable, we can’t offer much to anyone else.

I am not sure what it is that makes some countries want to help others when they have so many of their own people living in the streets. Sure, there are some who chose that route due to their own issues, such as drug usage or just not wanting any other lifestyle. But there are actually real people who had nowhere else to turn.

burden-1296754_960_720Why are there so many people who can’t afford to see a doctor, and when they do, can’t afford to take the proper sick time to care for themselves? Why is it so hard to get on disability? Instead, they are forced to go to work and suffer until they eventually work themselves to death. What’s more, they are forced to pay taxes which pay for healthy people to sit back and enjoy a good life!

As an individual, you are probably always taking care of others and not taking proper care of yourself.  But, how does that work out? You can’t help others unless you are ok yourself! And yet, we are made to feel guilty when we focus on ourselves. We are seen as vain and self-centered. Countries, too, should take care of themselves before they take care of others.

Just like when you’re on an airplane and you get those safety instructions before your flight takes off – they tell you that in the case of an emergency,  you need to put on your own mask first, and then help a child. Whether it is instinct or just thinking you are doing the right thing, you would probably want to put the kid’s mask on first. However, once the kid’s mask is on and you lose oxygen, would they be able to help you? So, it is actually more logical that you take care of yourself first.

287006_2228597322027_2145461_oFocus on you! Take care of yourself so that you can take better care of your children. Be a role model. If you want the best for them, have an education and a good job so that you can best take care and provide for them.  Surround yourself with good people who help boost your morale. Focus on your health and taking good care of yourself if that means you will live longer and be a better person. While many of us can’t afford health care, we can still make better choices when it comes to eating and exercising.

When we are all the best we can be, only then can we, individually, or as a group, help others.

Natural Adrenalin – Can You Put That In a Bottle?

Standard

I, like millions of other people, live with daily pain. It is horrible to have to live with so much pain that just sitting, standing and many other day-to-day movements can cause. We take so many things for granted when we are young.

And I,  just like millions of other people, have been given so many medications and tried so many treatments that may mask the pain temporarily, but nothing really seems to work. If anything, when the medications or treatments wear off, the pain seems to have intensified, because the original problem is still there.

Of course, a “cure” may never be found. If it does, it is probably a long way from being discovered. However, what I have found is that music and dancing give me a boost of energy that makes me “forget” the pain. It takes me to another level that I can’t explain, but at that time and place, I feel good. Really good. Awesome, even.

13934764_10209723720917360_1638781542874610390_nStrange how I am not able to move one minute, but let me hear some of my favorite songs, and I jump up and just start moving. I am not a good dancer, by any means, but that’s never stopped me! If, however, a disability lawyer would just happen to see me, they would tell me that there is no way that I am disabled. They would swear there is nothing wrong with me and that I am quite capable of standing on my feet all day. 

Yet, it is the adrenaline that gives me the motivation for just that moment in time. Unfortunately, I can’t play music and dance at a workplace all day long. I have to get to business eventually. And when I stop, the pain comes back. Sometimes with a vengeance, because of the dancing.

So, how can I capture this feeling and save it inside of me to last throughout the workday? Can this stuff be bottled and taken as needed? It would be a wonder drug. It would be the most natural medication there is. If scientists could figure out a way, this would be the miracle product we’ve all been waiting for!

Until then, I will have to keep my dancing and bursts of energy to myself.

The Invisible Handicap

Standard

Chronic pain. It’s real. It’s debilitating. It makes you want to just curl up and die.29657_425099515940_6942706_n OK, well, not necessarily die, but just not have anything to do with the world at that point in time. We just want to be left alone. We hope it will go away. We are pretty sure it would feel so much better if we didn’t have all the responsibilities that come along with living. We wish the dog would walk itself and the children could just do without Mom for one day. We wish we didn’t have to go to work. There’s nothing like falling asleep after a night of tossing and turning and then the fucking alarm goes off. And then comes the stress of the job: the work, the co-workers, the clients, the commute.

Yet, people will look at you and think, “There’s nothing wrong with her. She’s just fat. If she would just get up off of her lazy ass and move around, she’d be alright.” Okay, to be honest, that’s partially true. I once had back pain so bad, I practically crawled into the chiropractor’s office. He looked at me and said, “You’re overweight. You need to walk two miles a day.” At the time, I was actually not overweight. I have wide hips, and at the time, people did not admit that a big butt was attractive. This was all before Jennifer Lopez and Kim Kardashian made that a ‘thing’. NOW I am overweight. But, anyway… I looked at the guy in astonishment. I couldn’t believe it! I could barely walk into his office, and here this fucking moron wants me to walk two miles??

Okay, well, out of spite, I decided to do it. It was a huge struggle at first. But, you know what? It worked! I started to feel better and after a while, I was able to stand up straight and actually walk.

I did feel good for a while, but you know what? Chronic pain never really goes away.  It eventually comes back – with a vengeance. And you just don’t want to get up anymore. You don’t care if you get fat. And you do get fat. Which doesn’t make matters better. But you don’t care. You are in pain.

You know, you see all of these success stories of people with physical handicaps who accomplish amazing feats. I am so happy for them, I really am. However, many of them, while they are physically challenged, do not have pain. Not all of them, but lots of them. Some are born that way and really don’t know any different. And it truly is an accomplishment for them, and I think they are incredible and amazing.

But you know what? I have days where I feel like I need a standing ovation just for making it out of bed. I feel like people should be gaping in awe that I made it to work. But, no. What do I get? Eye rolls. For being fat. For feeling pain.

Apply for disability and what do you get? Denied! Why? Because you can still sit. OK, you may have excruciating pain while doing it, but who cares? Or, maybe you can still wiggle your big toe. Or maybe you can still pick up a phone. No sympathy for you!!

Maybe one day there will be more recognition for it, but until then, people with chronic pain have to suffer in silence.

Why Performance Pay Should Be Mandatory

Standard

Have you ever had a job where you just wanted to quit because you were too good for it? You are so good that you can’t get promoted because they need you there, doing what you’re doing, because no one will ever be as good as you at it. Therefore, you are forced to work with incompetents who take advantage of the fact that you pick up their slack. The employer is most likely aware of this, but it all works out – for them. They get the finished product or end result and that is all they are concerned about.  You will never get a raise while you are in that position, but they don’t want to let you out of it.

13173626_10208897841190883_6064596124710169642_nWouldn’t it just be better if everyone got paid for their performance?  Wouldn’t that then make more people better at their jobs? What if the company took away from the slackers and gave to the performers? Wouldn’t that make things fairer? It might even open up some choice jobs for good workers to move up the line, once they weeded out the dead weight.

Most service workers should probably get paid more than the majority of office workers, and yet, they are the ones that are looked down upon. Well, at least, in the US they are. In most other countries, they are paid a decent hourly rate and are respected for what they do. You don’t get a server to take care of you – the whole staff is dedicated to serving you. And customer service is not abused and taken advantage of. I am sure there are many US servers who should be earning a lot more than someone sitting in an Accounts Payable office keying in invoices, but unfortunately, that’s not the case. 

Maybe one day all of this will change, but until then, enjoy the monotony.

Happy Easter, From An Atheist

Standard

No, I don’t “celebrate” Easter in the sense of a religious holiday, but I love decorating Easter eggs. I love the Easter candy. I love the colorful ornaments and how nice they look in my yard.

I decorate for Christmas. The beautiful lights are amazing and I hate to see them go when the season is over. IMG-20161218-WA0037

I say, “Happy Easter and Merry Christmas” because it goes beyond the religiousness. It is tradition, and that’s it. If you take it to mean that I am wishing you a happy holiday in the religious sense, and you celebrate these holidays religiously, then that’s great. If you don’t, then you don’t, but that is no reason to go ballistic over it or to take it personally.

It should also not come as a surprise that an atheist feels this way. There are plenty of Jewish people who celebrate Christmas, along with their own traditional holidays. There are many people who celebrate Kwanza and Christmas. Maybe ‘celebrate’ is the wrong word, as it is not necessarily a celebration. Often, it is just decorating and enjoying the season and the feel in the air. It is about enjoying loved ones and good times. It is celebrating life and living.

Bottom line: Who cares if you say or celebrate Christmas or Easter. If you do, you do, and if you don’t, you don’t. Whatever you do, just live and let live.

Traveling? Stop Packing Unnecessary Shit.

Standard

I travel internationally a lot, so I had to learn how to come up with a packing plan in order to make sure I got the most out of the weight allowance without having to pay any extra in baggage fees.

It seems like I always packed a lot of crap I didn’t need, and a lot of shit I never wore. One thing I learned – if you have clothes that you’ve never worn, don’t think you are suddenly going to have the urge to wear those when you are on vacation. Whatever you do, don’t pack them! Think in terms of putting 5 decent outfits together and make sure you try them on and look at yourself in the mirror to make sure they look good. Certain shoes don’t look good with certain pants or they just don’t match to the look you are going for. Don’t wait until you get there to realize that it doesn’t work. If you are going to be somewhere for longer than 5 days, don’t worry about packing more. You are on vacation, so you will probably see a lot of stuff that you have to have and you don’t need a lack of space in your suitcase. If you do happen to run out of clothes, then just wash the ones you brought.

If you are going to be somewhere for longer than 5 days, don’t worry about packing more. You are on vacation, so you will probably see a lot of stuff that you have to have and you don’t need a lack of space in your suitcase.

564378_3919350389797_756631314_nTake along the clothes that you normally wear casually. Jeans and a t-shirt are pretty much acceptable everywhere. If you think you might go swimming, then you can pack a bathing suit. If you have an event planned during that time, bring your planned attire for that event, too.

Just keep in mind, the more space you have when you go, the more souvenirs and clothes you can buy to bring back!

 

Success Can Be So Simple

Standard

 

When someone becomes famous and successful for doing something that is pretty much a common, everyday thing, we all scratch our heads and wonder why. Why did this person become a millionaire for some simple everyday thing that they just happened to make note of? How is this even a ‘thing’? I could have done that!!!

Why, yes. You could have. So, why didn’t you?

Jerry Seinfeld made a success of “a show about nothing”. Why? Because this was a show about everything. Every stupid little circumstance that can happen in everyday life.

Recently, I saw a video going around on Facebook that showed how some people walked into a subway train and saw lots of graffiti. One guy decided to start cleaning it up, and then suddenly, everyone pitched in. Why did it take that one person to think of it? Well, actually, it may have crossed everyone’s mind, but it always takes that one person to get everyone motivated.

I was sitting in the doctor’s office when I saw a row of these pictures:

I thought, “Jeez! I could so easily have done this. People spend so much money on going to art schools, and yet, this is all they want? This is what people are paying good money for?

So, how have some people become successful by doing everyday things?

One way to be successful is to do your research and read what other people are talking about. There are people are making money simply from getting people like you to read about stuff that they already know. Stuff like everyday occurrences. Why? Because we can all relate to it. Look at bloggers who are getting rich just by making videos of their daily routine of putting on their make-up!

You need to step outside of the ‘reading about it’ box eventually and come up with your own ideas. You are making those people rich by reading what they write,  or watching their videos, whether what they are saying or doing is right or not. They can fill your head with how they became rich and what worked for them, when all along, what worked for them was to come up with a good storyline, then get everyone to agree with and believe in it.  

Seriously – what if there were no religion?

Standard

John Lennon’s much loved song, “Imagine” tried to get us to think about what the world would be like without religion. People love that song, but does anyone really think about what it actually means? Does anyone really imagine what a world without religion would be like?

So many hate crimes going on the world today are based on religion. Basically, it’s all about “my God is better than your God”. So people kill over it.

Yet, it’s crazy. It’s senseless killing to try to prove a point. It’s all in attempts try to prove who is holier. By killing? Seriously?

To top it off, no God has ever been proven to exist. That’s mind-boggling! It’s also hard to believe that there are so few atheists. So many people are afraid of the consequences of not believing. As intelligent as society proclaims to be, people are afraid to not believe. Why??

So, just think about it. What if it were true? What if there were no God? Can you imagine
14680964_10210339319226933_3445231365751080852_othen what a peaceful world it would be? Or would it be chaotic because people are no longer afraid of going to Hell? Would the true nature of people then be revealed? Would people continue to kill just because that was their true nature all along?

Who knows? One thing that is certain, though, is that people are easily fooled. We wonder how some cults can corrupt young (and sometimes old) minds. But, hasn’t this been going on for centuries?

But, what if…?