Have you ever noticed that sometimes you can be sexually attracted to someone just from their actions? There is a certain charm about some people that makes you just envision what they are like in bed. When they possess this sort of appeal, the fact that they are overweight or have any other unattractive features seem unnoticeable.
At the same time, there are many physically attractive people who draw you in immediately by their looks, only to turn you off by their actions. Still, you may wish to consider taming the beast and giving it a go. Those types of relationships usually don’t end up going very far in the long run.
That’s why you should really get to know someone before you consider taking things a step further. Things aren’t always what they seem.
So, who ever decided that exclusive relationships between two people was the only way to go? I mean, cheating would be eliminated completely if we could just be with who we want to be with whenever we wanted to be with them, right? Why dedicate years of your life to just one person? Just spend some quality time together and then move on.
Sexual urges are natural and can happen at any time whenever two people experience things together. Different situations can bring people closer, like a work assignment, an accident – any number of things. If you’re dedicated to one person, you have to somehow pretend you’re not human with natural urges. How do you do that?? Slip-ups happen all the time.
OK, so I’m a married woman myself. I enjoyed a wild single life and I didn’t even think about marriage until I met my husband. I guess it’s just what you eventually do. You find someone that you think you can live with for the rest of your life. And I think that I can do that with my husband. But sometimes the thoughts are there. Not thoughts of cheating, but thoughts of why do I do things differently out of consideration of being a married woman.
I miss a lot of simple things, like being able to read a book in peace. I wish I could just eat a quick snack, but instead cook up a meal for the two of us. I want to go on a diet, but then I’d have to cook separate meals or tell him to fend for himself, and that’s not right.
And then there’s the sex. To be honest, I wish we were having more. Much more. Our married sex has gotten down to maybe only once or twice a month, seriously. He can’t perform as well as he used to, and I don’t like to force him, so….. So, yeah, that’s why I find myself coming back to these ponderings.
Cheating never seems so bad to the cheater. Sometimes it might really not be anything. There could come a time when you just want to give someone a simple kiss. (Yes, it could happen!) But a more meaningful kiss, such as with the tongue…? Well, that somehow never seems like such a bad thing to the partner who did it. But it can be devastating to the partner who’s had their heart ripped out over it.
When such an act is found out, there will always be doubts as to whether you can be trusted. After all – you know good and well that if you went so far as to French kiss someone, it wouldn’t take much more to take things a little further.
And, yes, even then you may have not taken it as seriously. It may have just been a few hours of fun to you. You and the person you cheated with just lived for the moment and let your bodies do what came naturally. No big thing, right?
But once you’ve cheated on your partner and gotten away with it, you probably wouldn’t have a problem doing it again. And again. The first “cheat” is usually the hardest because you do know it’s wrong. Then, once you’ve done it, you probably think, “Eh, what the heck.”
If you really love your partner, why would you even risk losing them over something so trivial? Why would you want to hurt them? Isn’t your life great when you are on a level with someone when you can share everything with them and not let the thoughts of another person distract you?
And, yes, sending flirty text messages that you know would upset your partner is wrong. But you knew that.
Somewhere in the world, someone’s having sex. OK, there are probably lots and lots of people having sex right now. Surely you’ve had sex a time or two. Depending on your status and your age, the reason for your sex act may differ. That’s because the meanings and thoughts of sex change as you get older. Even though you get better at it with time, you may end up slowing down at some point.
When you’re younger, you have a lot of pent-up desire that needs to be released. A new relationship also sees a lot of “action” in the beginning. That’s because you are learning new things about each other. Your thoughts throughout the day are consumed with what you did the night before, along with stuff you want to try. Naturally, by the time you get together again, your bodies are raging with passion.
Once you’ve been together for a while, you know exactly what it takes to please your partner. Sex is good, but the head games have cooled down. For some, this works out perfectly. Others, however, may get bored and search elsewhere. The older you are, the more you are likely to stick with it. It’s just safer that way, for the most part. Others may need a little more adventure.
Either way, have fun. I am going to end this so we can all get back to it.
Has anyone else ever wondered why people go so crazy over ‘that’ feeling? Okay, I’ll be blunt: an orgasm.
It’s a feeling we can give to ourselves, for cryin’ out loud! So why are so many crimes committed, just to have someone else give you one? Why are marriages destroyed over someone going to someone else to give them ‘that’ feeling, when they can get it at home, either by themselves or with their partners?
What is it about an orgasm that drives people insane? Some brood thoughts about it in their minds that make them go out and rape, sometimes murder, for it. You have to wonder why they don’t think of the outcome, or why it doesn’t matter to them.
A scorned mate can be so hurt over it that they do insane things that they wouldn’t normally do. Yet, the partners who commit these acts don’t see it as a crime. They often see it as ‘casual’ sex, until it develops into something more. They don’t even take into consideration the pain that they might potentially cause. Not to mention the fighting and destruction of a relationship. Is it really worth it? Yet, in the heat of the moment and the desire to have ‘that’ feeling of release, nothing else matters.
Is it any wonder that sex sells? It’s on everyone’s minds, whether positively or negatively.