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The Key To Success Is Sticking To Your Plan

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When you decide to be your own boss, you’ll find that you have to be tougher on yourself than any other boss you’ve ever had. The best way to be successful is by setting goals and reaching them. In order to do that, you have to create a plan and stick to it, and that takes a lot of discipline!

checklist-1643781__340Mapping out your plan and following it is important, but your plan should be monitored and altered constantly. Times and trends change, so you have to keep up with what’s hot and what’s not. If you see that one method isn’t working, it’s time to come up with a change of plan.

If something isn’t working, it’s redundant to keep doing the same things. Whatever you do, don’t give up! If your idea was good for you, chances are, there are millions of other people who will benefit from it. Come up with new ideas. Change your approach. Do whatever it takes to make the money you need to survive, and, better yet, to be successful.

Read often and study what other people are doing to be successful.  Be sure to create your own methods and use your own style. That is what is going to make your product unique. When you make that leap to go into business for yourself, you have to be the strictest boss and the most hard-working employee, all in one. No matter what your niche is, the route to the top is all the same!

No matter what your niche is, the route to the top is all the same!

 

Natural Adrenalin – Can You Put That In a Bottle?

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I, like millions of other people, live with daily pain. It is horrible to have to live with so much pain that just sitting, standing and many other day-to-day movements can cause. We take so many things for granted when we are young.

And I,  just like millions of other people, have been given so many medications and tried so many treatments that may mask the pain temporarily, but nothing really seems to work. If anything, when the medications or treatments wear off, the pain seems to have intensified, because the original problem is still there.

Of course, a “cure” may never be found. If it does, it is probably a long way from being discovered. However, what I have found is that music and dancing give me a boost of energy that makes me “forget” the pain. It takes me to another level that I can’t explain, but at that time and place, I feel good. Really good. Awesome, even.

13934764_10209723720917360_1638781542874610390_nStrange how I am not able to move one minute, but let me hear some of my favorite songs, and I jump up and just start moving. I am not a good dancer, by any means, but that’s never stopped me! If, however, a disability lawyer would just happen to see me, they would tell me that there is no way that I am disabled. They would swear there is nothing wrong with me and that I am quite capable of standing on my feet all day. 

Yet, it is the adrenaline that gives me the motivation for just that moment in time. Unfortunately, I can’t play music and dance at a workplace all day long. I have to get to business eventually. And when I stop, the pain comes back. Sometimes with a vengeance, because of the dancing.

So, how can I capture this feeling and save it inside of me to last throughout the workday? Can this stuff be bottled and taken as needed? It would be a wonder drug. It would be the most natural medication there is. If scientists could figure out a way, this would be the miracle product we’ve all been waiting for!

Until then, I will have to keep my dancing and bursts of energy to myself.

The Invisible Handicap

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Chronic pain. It’s real. It’s debilitating. It makes you want to just curl up and die.29657_425099515940_6942706_n OK, well, not necessarily die, but just not have anything to do with the world at that point in time. We just want to be left alone. We hope it will go away. We are pretty sure it would feel so much better if we didn’t have all the responsibilities that come along with living. We wish the dog would walk itself and the children could just do without Mom for one day. We wish we didn’t have to go to work. There’s nothing like falling asleep after a night of tossing and turning and then the fucking alarm goes off. And then comes the stress of the job: the work, the co-workers, the clients, the commute.

Yet, people will look at you and think, “There’s nothing wrong with her. She’s just fat. If she would just get up off of her lazy ass and move around, she’d be alright.” Okay, to be honest, that’s partially true. I once had back pain so bad, I practically crawled into the chiropractor’s office. He looked at me and said, “You’re overweight. You need to walk two miles a day.” At the time, I was actually not overweight. I have wide hips, and at the time, people did not admit that a big butt was attractive. This was all before Jennifer Lopez and Kim Kardashian made that a ‘thing’. NOW I am overweight. But, anyway… I looked at the guy in astonishment. I couldn’t believe it! I could barely walk into his office, and here this fucking moron wants me to walk two miles??

Okay, well, out of spite, I decided to do it. It was a huge struggle at first. But, you know what? It worked! I started to feel better and after a while, I was able to stand up straight and actually walk.

I did feel good for a while, but you know what? Chronic pain never really goes away.  It eventually comes back – with a vengeance. And you just don’t want to get up anymore. You don’t care if you get fat. And you do get fat. Which doesn’t make matters better. But you don’t care. You are in pain.

You know, you see all of these success stories of people with physical handicaps who accomplish amazing feats. I am so happy for them, I really am. However, many of them, while they are physically challenged, do not have pain. Not all of them, but lots of them. Some are born that way and really don’t know any different. And it truly is an accomplishment for them, and I think they are incredible and amazing.

But you know what? I have days where I feel like I need a standing ovation just for making it out of bed. I feel like people should be gaping in awe that I made it to work. But, no. What do I get? Eye rolls. For being fat. For feeling pain.

Apply for disability and what do you get? Denied! Why? Because you can still sit. OK, you may have excruciating pain while doing it, but who cares? Or, maybe you can still wiggle your big toe. Or maybe you can still pick up a phone. No sympathy for you!!

Maybe one day there will be more recognition for it, but until then, people with chronic pain have to suffer in silence.

Why Performance Pay Should Be Mandatory

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Have you ever had a job where you just wanted to quit because you were too good for it? You are so good that you can’t get promoted because they need you there, doing what you’re doing, because no one will ever be as good as you at it. Therefore, you are forced to work with incompetents who take advantage of the fact that you pick up their slack. The employer is most likely aware of this, but it all works out – for them. They get the finished product or end result and that is all they are concerned about.  You will never get a raise while you are in that position, but they don’t want to let you out of it.

13173626_10208897841190883_6064596124710169642_nWouldn’t it just be better if everyone got paid for their performance?  Wouldn’t that then make more people better at their jobs? What if the company took away from the slackers and gave to the performers? Wouldn’t that make things fairer? It might even open up some choice jobs for good workers to move up the line, once they weeded out the dead weight.

Most service workers should probably get paid more than the majority of office workers, and yet, they are the ones that are looked down upon. Well, at least, in the US they are. In most other countries, they are paid a decent hourly rate and are respected for what they do. You don’t get a server to take care of you – the whole staff is dedicated to serving you. And customer service is not abused and taken advantage of. I am sure there are many US servers who should be earning a lot more than someone sitting in an Accounts Payable office keying in invoices, but unfortunately, that’s not the case. 

Maybe one day all of this will change, but until then, enjoy the monotony.

Success Can Be So Simple

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When someone becomes famous and successful for doing something that is pretty much a common, everyday thing, we all scratch our heads and wonder why. Why did this person become a millionaire for some simple everyday thing that they just happened to make note of? How is this even a ‘thing’? I could have done that!!!

Why, yes. You could have. So, why didn’t you?

Jerry Seinfeld made a success of “a show about nothing”. Why? Because this was a show about everything. Every stupid little circumstance that can happen in everyday life.

Recently, I saw a video going around on Facebook that showed how some people walked into a subway train and saw lots of graffiti. One guy decided to start cleaning it up, and then suddenly, everyone pitched in. Why did it take that one person to think of it? Well, actually, it may have crossed everyone’s mind, but it always takes that one person to get everyone motivated.

I was sitting in the doctor’s office when I saw a row of these pictures:

I thought, “Jeez! I could so easily have done this. People spend so much money on going to art schools, and yet, this is all they want? This is what people are paying good money for?

So, how have some people become successful by doing everyday things?

One way to be successful is to do your research and read what other people are talking about. There are people are making money simply from getting people like you to read about stuff that they already know. Stuff like everyday occurrences. Why? Because we can all relate to it. Look at bloggers who are getting rich just by making videos of their daily routine of putting on their make-up!

You need to step outside of the ‘reading about it’ box eventually and come up with your own ideas. You are making those people rich by reading what they write,  or watching their videos, whether what they are saying or doing is right or not. They can fill your head with how they became rich and what worked for them, when all along, what worked for them was to come up with a good storyline, then get everyone to agree with and believe in it.  

Seriously – what if there were no religion?

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John Lennon’s much loved song, “Imagine” tried to get us to think about what the world would be like without religion. People love that song, but does anyone really think about what it actually means? Does anyone really imagine what a world without religion would be like?

So many hate crimes going on the world today are based on religion. Basically, it’s all about “my God is better than your God”. So people kill over it.

Yet, it’s crazy. It’s senseless killing to try to prove a point. It’s all in attempts try to prove who is holier. By killing? Seriously?

To top it off, no God has ever been proven to exist. That’s mind-boggling! It’s also hard to believe that there are so few atheists. So many people are afraid of the consequences of not believing. As intelligent as society proclaims to be, people are afraid to not believe. Why??

So, just think about it. What if it were true? What if there were no God? Can you imagine
14680964_10210339319226933_3445231365751080852_othen what a peaceful world it would be? Or would it be chaotic because people are no longer afraid of going to Hell? Would the true nature of people then be revealed? Would people continue to kill just because that was their true nature all along?

Who knows? One thing that is certain, though, is that people are easily fooled. We wonder how some cults can corrupt young (and sometimes old) minds. But, hasn’t this been going on for centuries?

But, what if…?

Atheists Are Not Devil Worshipers

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Let’s get this straight: Not believing in a “God” does not mean that one worships the devil!

That was often the first thing that people would think whenever someone proclaimed themselves to be an atheist. However, more and more, the world is starting to really think about reality and wonder if there really is some guy in the sky who tells us to do good, or else! That sounds pretty harsh, I know, but that is truly what many people believe. Various religions have their own ideas of “God”. But, can anyone prove anything? Yet – how can the masses be wrong?

14095976_10209864820324757_4819318819279458748_nI honestly wonder if more people believe just out of a fear of not believing. What will become of them? What’s going to happen if they admit that some things are just not possible, and could not have happened? Will they be struck by lightning? Will they have a horrible accident?

First of all, we are all going to die. Some people are going to have more horrific and painful deaths than others. It’s very sad, but that’s a fact. No belief in God is ever going to change the outcome. No matter what you eat, no matter how you live, you’re going.  And when you’re gone, you’re gone.  OK – so, there may have actually been a “Jesus”. He was a person. He could have beem real. But, come on…! Do you really think that his parents did not have sex? Do you know how people were treated back in the day for doing the unthinkable – having sex before they were married? They were young. They were scared. The poor guy was brought up to believe that his father was this “God” person, and somehow, everyone else bought it, too!

If this “God” were suddenly to come down to Earth and say, “Hey, I’m here!”, would anyone believe him? It’s actually been done before. People have been locked up in insane asylums for doing it.

These thoughts are real and should be considered. These ideas and theories do not in any way suggest that just because someone does not believe in a “God” that they believe in a “Devil”. Rather, more people who believe in “God” believe in “The Devil”.

Looking at the way things are going in the world today, it would seem that more evil than good is being done to prove whose “God” is better. You have to wonder about their “Gods”. The more we are being forced to believe a certain way, they more we are wondering who the “Devil Worshipers” actually are.

Don’t get me wrong – it’s not bad to believe in “Something”. As a matter of fact, if a belief makes people do good, then it’s probably best for them to continue believing it. Prayer sends positivity out into the world, so if you are someone who prays, by all means, keep on doing so.

It’s nice to know that many people are waking up and actually thinking about facts and wanting proof. Science still has a long way to go, but the facts are that it is easier to disprove “God” than it is to prove “Him/Her”.

 

Why Can’t We Just Be Human?

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It’s amazing how the world gives us everything we need. Vitamins in fruit, plants that heal, air to breathe, etc. We just have to figure out how to utilize it. Yet, our culture is so busy looking for ways to stop life from happening, that we are holding ourselves back without even realizing it.

Think about it: Why is it so easy for animals to figure out what they need? How do they understand the ‘laws’ of their world and automatically know how to find food, reproduce and how to care for their young?

12068927_10207354469007543_8723815248432365032_oBirds, for example, have very small brains. Yet they ‘know’ things. They know where to live and build nests. They know how to regurgitate food and feed their young. They recognize people. 

Think about ants. Look at their colonies. Look how they are able to carry so much food away. How do they all come up with the whole ‘queen’ thing and understand how it works?

These are just examples of nature. So, why can’t humans be natural?

First of all – humans have to be PC (politically correct). Everything is offensive, so you have to watch what you say or do.

Also – watch your back. If you do something you shouldn’t be doing and it offended no one – even something as minor as smoking a joint – someone will have to report you because they have nothing better to do and they saw you commit a crime. By the way – marijuana is a plant which makes ill people feel better. Yet, humans have to come up with laws about it. It’s a freakin’ plant!!

Yes, there are crimes committed. Yes, there are robberies and murders. This sounds harsh, but why not let the parties affected handle the perpetrator? I am quite sure that the family of a young child who has been raped will justly deal with the offender. Isn’t that a harsher sentence than one where the taxpayer pays for a jail cell and meals for this waste of space? Isn’t it more justified? Maybe that would be a better answer to stopping this type of behavior.

Shouldn’t people be allowed to love who they want, whether that person is of the same sex or not? If another person thinks that they need two wives or two husbands, and everyone involved is okay with it, then why should it be of any concern to anyone else?

If someone says things that you don’t like, don’t listen to them. They are entitled to their opinions. If someone believes in a different God than yours, or in no God at all, let them! It’s their choice. If it makes them a better person for believing in a power greater than themselves, or for not believing in it, isn’t that a good thing? If you have to resort to violence to prove that your God or belief is better, are you being ‘Godly’? And what does that say about your religion or lack thereof?

Bottom line – why can’t humans live by the laws of nature, without creating laws of human ignorance?

 

How are ‘natural’ things even up for debate?

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Things that are natural shouldn’t even be up for debate. Same sex, smoking weed… If you don’t like it, don’t do it. That should be the only thing you should think about it.

If same sex people love each other and want to marry – why the hell not?? Who cares? Except for them , no one should care either way. People who love them should be happy for them. You don’t know how their marriage will turn out any more than you know how a marriage between a man and a woman will end up. What’s it to you? What do you care? How does it harm you in any way?

Cannabis – it’s a plant that grows. How can it be illegal? Who’s up for arrest? Mother Nature? It’s a plant and it makes people feel good. It makes people who are ill forget their pain. It makes people who are stressed forget about their problems. If you don’t like it, don’t smoke it. (Even though you are probably someone who might benefit from it.)

Some things just happen naturally or grow naturally, whatever the case may be. Why do people feel like if something is not for them, they have to be so dead set against it that they have to come up with laws about it? It’s nature, people! Leave it alone. Live and let live. Every person on this earth has something that they enjoy or do that is unique to them. Who are we to judge?

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When Another Chick Steals Your Show

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Don’t you just hate it when you are the center of attention and all of a sudden some b**** just waltzes in and steals your show??

I mean, come on… You may not be the prettiest person there, but at that point in time they had nothing better to do, and you were interesting and pretty enough to have everyone’s attention and focus, then in walks this chick and BOOM, no one even remembers what the hell you were talking about.

It’s like, “Hey, everyone!! I’m still here!!”

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