Happy Easter, From An Atheist

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No, I don’t “celebrate” Easter in the sense of a religious holiday, but I love decorating Easter eggs. I love the Easter candy. I love the colorful ornaments and how nice they look in my yard.

I decorate for Christmas. The beautiful lights are amazing and I hate to see them go when the season is over. IMG-20161218-WA0037

I say, “Happy Easter and Merry Christmas” because it goes beyond the religiousness. It is tradition, and that’s it. If you take it to mean that I am wishing you a happy holiday in the religious sense, and you celebrate these holidays religiously, then that’s great. If you don’t, then you don’t, but that is no reason to go ballistic over it or to take it personally.

It should also not come as a surprise that an atheist feels this way. There are plenty of Jewish people who celebrate Christmas, along with their own traditional holidays. There are many people who celebrate Kwanza and Christmas. Maybe ‘celebrate’ is the wrong word, as it is not necessarily a celebration. Often, it is just decorating and enjoying the season and the feel in the air. It is about enjoying loved ones and good times. It is celebrating life and living.

Bottom line: Who cares if you say or celebrate Christmas or Easter. If you do, you do, and if you don’t, you don’t. Whatever you do, just live and let live.

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Traveling? Stop Packing Unnecessary Shit.

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I travel internationally a lot, so I had to learn how to come up with a packing plan in order to make sure I got the most out of the weight allowance without having to pay any extra in baggage fees.

It seems like I always packed a lot of crap I didn’t need, and a lot of shit I never wore. One thing I learned – if you have clothes that you’ve never worn, don’t think you are suddenly going to have the urge to wear those when you are on vacation. Whatever you do, don’t pack them! Think in terms of putting 5 decent outfits together and make sure you try them on and look at yourself in the mirror to make sure they look good. Certain shoes don’t look good with certain pants or they just don’t match to the look you are going for. Don’t wait until you get there to realize that it doesn’t work. If you are going to be somewhere for longer than 5 days, don’t worry about packing more. You are on vacation, so you will probably see a lot of stuff that you have to have and you don’t need a lack of space in your suitcase. If you do happen to run out of clothes, then just wash the ones you brought.

If you are going to be somewhere for longer than 5 days, don’t worry about packing more. You are on vacation, so you will probably see a lot of stuff that you have to have and you don’t need a lack of space in your suitcase.

564378_3919350389797_756631314_nTake along the clothes that you normally wear casually. Jeans and a t-shirt are pretty much acceptable everywhere. If you think you might go swimming, then you can pack a bathing suit. If you have an event planned during that time, bring your planned attire for that event, too.

Just keep in mind, the more space you have when you go, the more souvenirs and clothes you can buy to bring back!

 

Success Can Be So Simple

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When someone becomes famous and successful for doing something that is pretty much a common, everyday thing, we all scratch our heads and wonder why. Why did this person become a millionaire for some simple everyday thing that they just happened to make note of? How is this even a ‘thing’? I could have done that!!!

Why, yes. You could have. So, why didn’t you?

Jerry Seinfeld made a success of “a show about nothing”. Why? Because this was a show about everything. Every stupid little circumstance that can happen in everyday life.

Recently, I saw a video going around on Facebook that showed how some people walked into a subway train and saw lots of graffiti. One guy decided to start cleaning it up, and then suddenly, everyone pitched in. Why did it take that one person to think of it? Well, actually, it may have crossed everyone’s mind, but it always takes that one person to get everyone motivated.

I was sitting in the doctor’s office when I saw a row of these pictures:

I thought, “Jeez! I could so easily have done this. People spend so much money on going to art schools, and yet, this is all they want? This is what people are paying good money for?

So, how have some people become successful by doing everyday things?

One way to be successful is to do your research and read what other people are talking about. There are people are making money simply from getting people like you to read about stuff that they already know. Stuff like everyday occurrences. Why? Because we can all relate to it. Look at bloggers who are getting rich just by making videos of their daily routine of putting on their make-up!

You need to step outside of the ‘reading about it’ box eventually and come up with your own ideas. You are making those people rich by reading what they write,  or watching their videos, whether what they are saying or doing is right or not. They can fill your head with how they became rich and what worked for them, when all along, what worked for them was to come up with a good storyline, then get everyone to agree with and believe in it.  

Seriously – what if there were no religion?

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John Lennon’s much loved song, “Imagine” tried to get us to think about what the world would be like without religion. People love that song, but does anyone really think about what it actually means? Does anyone really imagine what a world without religion would be like?

So many hate crimes going on the world today are based on religion. Basically, it’s all about “my God is better than your God”. So people kill over it.

Yet, it’s crazy. It’s senseless killing to try to prove a point. It’s all in attempts try to prove who is holier. By killing? Seriously?

To top it off, no God has ever been proven to exist. That’s mind-boggling! It’s also hard to believe that there are so few atheists. So many people are afraid of the consequences of not believing. As intelligent as society proclaims to be, people are afraid to not believe. Why??

So, just think about it. What if it were true? What if there were no God? Can you imagine
14680964_10210339319226933_3445231365751080852_othen what a peaceful world it would be? Or would it be chaotic because people are no longer afraid of going to Hell? Would the true nature of people then be revealed? Would people continue to kill just because that was their true nature all along?

Who knows? One thing that is certain, though, is that people are easily fooled. We wonder how some cults can corrupt young (and sometimes old) minds. But, hasn’t this been going on for centuries?

But, what if…?

Atheists Are Not Devil Worshipers

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Let’s get this straight: Not believing in a “God” does not mean that one worships the devil!

That was often the first thing that people would think whenever someone proclaimed themselves to be an atheist. However, more and more, the world is starting to really think about reality and wonder if there really is some guy in the sky who tells us to do good, or else! That sounds pretty harsh, I know, but that is truly what many people believe. Various religions have their own ideas of “God”. But, can anyone prove anything? Yet – how can the masses be wrong?

14095976_10209864820324757_4819318819279458748_nI honestly wonder if more people believe just out of a fear of not believing. What will become of them? What’s going to happen if they admit that some things are just not possible, and could not have happened? Will they be struck by lightning? Will they have a horrible accident?

First of all, we are all going to die. Some people are going to have more horrific and painful deaths than others. It’s very sad, but that’s a fact. No belief in God is ever going to change the outcome. No matter what you eat, no matter how you live, you’re going.  And when you’re gone, you’re gone.  OK – so, there may have actually been a “Jesus”. He was a person. He could have beem real. But, come on…! Do you really think that his parents did not have sex? Do you know how people were treated back in the day for doing the unthinkable – having sex before they were married? They were young. They were scared. The poor guy was brought up to believe that his father was this “God” person, and somehow, everyone else bought it, too!

If this “God” were suddenly to come down to Earth and say, “Hey, I’m here!”, would anyone believe him? It’s actually been done before. People have been locked up in insane asylums for doing it.

These thoughts are real and should be considered. These ideas and theories do not in any way suggest that just because someone does not believe in a “God” that they believe in a “Devil”. Rather, more people who believe in “God” believe in “The Devil”.

Looking at the way things are going in the world today, it would seem that more evil than good is being done to prove whose “God” is better. You have to wonder about their “Gods”. The more we are being forced to believe a certain way, they more we are wondering who the “Devil Worshipers” actually are.

Don’t get me wrong – it’s not bad to believe in “Something”. As a matter of fact, if a belief makes people do good, then it’s probably best for them to continue believing it. Prayer sends positivity out into the world, so if you are someone who prays, by all means, keep on doing so.

It’s nice to know that many people are waking up and actually thinking about facts and wanting proof. Science still has a long way to go, but the facts are that it is easier to disprove “God” than it is to prove “Him/Her”.

 

Millions Of People Out There, and You’re Fixated On One? Why???

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With so many millions of people in the world, why is breaking up so hard to do?  I am just people-1432658as guilty as anyone else when it comes to this, so not pointing anyone out. You can usually tell by a person’s social media status when they are going through a similar phase in their life. Many of our ‘friends’ are not all that sympathetic, however. You have the ‘eye-rollers’ who will discuss your situation with other so-called ‘friends’ with such comments as, “Why is she putting all of that out there? Who cares?” The problem is, you really believe that these are your friends and that they do care about you. And there will be a few who really do. At any rate, we are hurting and we want comfort. 

But, back to the question at hand: Why??? These thoughts were brought on by reading a friend’s status that stated they were hurting a year later, and all I could think was, “Why???” Obviously, he has moved on with his life – why can’t you get on with yours? He was just one fish in this huge sea.

It’s because we’ve shared things with this person that we wouldn’t share with others. They know things about us that no one else will ever know, and they didn’t even appreciate the fact that we’ve bared our souls to them in a way we have not done with any other person. We know intimate details about them and accepted them, and now a new person will have to discover these on their own. Once you’ve gotten that close to a person, it is hard to start the process all over again.

It all changes us for the next person we allow into our lives. We become different; we turn hard and cold. We don’t like ourselves that way, and we hate ourselves for it. It takes time to open up to someone new. Then, when we do, we don’t trust like we used to. It’s not the new person’s fault, but it’s just the way it is. Therefore, we are more likely to go back to the person who hurt us. We are likely to do this over and over again, because this person knows us so well. They know how we tick. They know how to take advantage of us, yet we keep coming back for more. Or we can’t just let it go.

That’s why.

Why Can’t We Just Be Human?

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It’s amazing how the world gives us everything we need. Vitamins in fruit, plants that heal, air to breathe, etc. We just have to figure out how to utilize it. Yet, our culture is so busy looking for ways to stop life from happening, that we are holding ourselves back without even realizing it.

Think about it: Why is it so easy for animals to figure out what they need? How do they understand the ‘laws’ of their world and automatically know how to find food, reproduce and how to care for their young?

12068927_10207354469007543_8723815248432365032_oBirds, for example, have very small brains. Yet they ‘know’ things. They know where to live and build nests. They know how to regurgitate food and feed their young. They recognize people. 

Think about ants. Look at their colonies. Look how they are able to carry so much food away. How do they all come up with the whole ‘queen’ thing and understand how it works?

These are just examples of nature. So, why can’t humans be natural?

First of all – humans have to be PC (politically correct). Everything is offensive, so you have to watch what you say or do.

Also – watch your back. If you do something you shouldn’t be doing and it offended no one – even something as minor as smoking a joint – someone will have to report you because they have nothing better to do and they saw you commit a crime. By the way – marijuana is a plant which makes ill people feel better. Yet, humans have to come up with laws about it. It’s a freakin’ plant!!

Yes, there are crimes committed. Yes, there are robberies and murders. This sounds harsh, but why not let the parties affected handle the perpetrator? I am quite sure that the family of a young child who has been raped will justly deal with the offender. Isn’t that a harsher sentence than one where the taxpayer pays for a jail cell and meals for this waste of space? Isn’t it more justified? Maybe that would be a better answer to stopping this type of behavior.

Shouldn’t people be allowed to love who they want, whether that person is of the same sex or not? If another person thinks that they need two wives or two husbands, and everyone involved is okay with it, then why should it be of any concern to anyone else?

If someone says things that you don’t like, don’t listen to them. They are entitled to their opinions. If someone believes in a different God than yours, or in no God at all, let them! It’s their choice. If it makes them a better person for believing in a power greater than themselves, or for not believing in it, isn’t that a good thing? If you have to resort to violence to prove that your God or belief is better, are you being ‘Godly’? And what does that say about your religion or lack thereof?

Bottom line – why can’t humans live by the laws of nature, without creating laws of human ignorance?

 

How are ‘natural’ things even up for debate?

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Things that are natural shouldn’t even be up for debate. Same sex, smoking weed… If you don’t like it, don’t do it. That should be the only thing you should think about it.

If same sex people love each other and want to marry – why the hell not?? Who cares? Except for them , no one should care either way. People who love them should be happy for them. You don’t know how their marriage will turn out any more than you know how a marriage between a man and a woman will end up. What’s it to you? What do you care? How does it harm you in any way?

Cannabis – it’s a plant that grows. How can it be illegal? Who’s up for arrest? Mother Nature? It’s a plant and it makes people feel good. It makes people who are ill forget their pain. It makes people who are stressed forget about their problems. If you don’t like it, don’t smoke it. (Even though you are probably someone who might benefit from it.)

Some things just happen naturally or grow naturally, whatever the case may be. Why do people feel like if something is not for them, they have to be so dead set against it that they have to come up with laws about it? It’s nature, people! Leave it alone. Live and let live. Every person on this earth has something that they enjoy or do that is unique to them. Who are we to judge?

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When Another Chick Steals Your Show

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Don’t you just hate it when you are the center of attention and all of a sudden some b**** just waltzes in and steals your show??

I mean, come on… You may not be the prettiest person there, but at that point in time they had nothing better to do, and you were interesting and pretty enough to have everyone’s attention and focus, then in walks this chick and BOOM, no one even remembers what the hell you were talking about.

It’s like, “Hey, everyone!! I’m still here!!”

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How To Make the Most Of Your Time When You Don’t Have Any

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With people having to work two and three jobs just to make ends meet, you have to wonder how you are supposed to have time to do anything else at all. Having small children also takes up a lot of your time and leaves you wondering how you will get things done.

190374_1884771646600_2346578_nWhether it means not having time to clean your house, do your laundry, working on your hobbies or exercising, you have to figure out how to plan the time into your day. Writing out a schedule and a separate to-do list is a step in the right direction. Penciling in specific times to do things from your t0-do list will allow you time to devote to your project, even if it is only a half hour a day. Otherwise, trying to find time or waiting for a free moment can be near impossible.

When it comes to cleaning your house, clean one room a day. For instance, thoroughly clean the living room one day. The next day, first do a quick straightening up of the living room and then move on to the kitchen, and so forth. Plan 20 minutes a day to workout to an online yoga video. Give yourself half an hour to an hour to meet with a friend for a cup of coffee.

These things are important to your well-being and leaves you with a feeling of accomplishing something, rather than nothing at all. After all, life is for living, so be sure to make the most of it.