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Don’t Just Believe It – Live It!

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Sure it is tough being in a rut day after day.  You go devotedly to the same nothing job, and the money never increases, so there’s no way out. It’s a safe place, though, because you know what you’re going to bring home every payday and you’ve got your bills all figured out. You’re in a somewhat safe place as long as everything’s covered.

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But, come on! You know you had dreams! You know that one day you thought you were going to be famous. You still look in the mirror every day and see a hint of the young person who once had ambition.

You might be the best damn cashier in the whole store, heck, even the whole company. But who the hell ever got famous for being a good cashier? Who ever got famous for flipping a burger really good?

If there was something that you enjoyed in your personal life and were really good at, then go back to it. Make it your passion. Find the time! Take the time! It’s so worth it.

Wouldn’t you rather be rich and famous from a painting that you drew, rather than the one billionth customer you rang up?

You have to find your opportunity and take it. You are living your life. You have to take charge.

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Therapeutic Conversations

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Have you ever really sat back and noticed how a conversation can just go on and on, with several different topics being covered in a short period of time?

That happens often when one gets started on a topic about something that happened in someone’s life or a situation that the listeners can relate to. You start talking about one situation, and then it slowly drifts into another as other people add their perspectives. As new situations are added, the more others relate.

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That’s why group discussions and therapy can be helpful. You might go in thinking that you’re just going to listen, and lo and behold! you share a similar experience and can’t wait to get it off your chest.

 

 

In Love With Being In Love

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Beginning romance is one of the best feelings there is. You feel sexy and attractive. And actually, you are. You put more focus on your appearance when there is someone who obviously really likes the way you look.

19105735_10212634375601908_1877532314289582754_n (2)It’s sad that this feeling doesn’t last forever. Some relationships fizzle out in a short time. Some last a little longer. But the butterflies in the stomach slowly flitter away.

If only that feeling could last forever! Some people enjoy it so much that as soon as it wears off they start looking around for something else. Someone would make a fortune if they could find a way to bottle it.

 

Physically Attractive vs Sex Appeal

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Have you ever noticed that sometimes you can be sexually attracted to someone just from their actions? There is a certain charm about some people that makes you just envision what they are like in bed. When they possess this sort of appeal, the fact that they are overweight or have any other unattractive features seem unnoticeable.

At the same time, there are many physically attractive people who draw you in immediately by their looks, only to turn you off by their actions. Still, you may wish to consider taming the beast and giving it a go. Those types of relationships usually don’t end up going very far in the long run.

That’s why you should really get to know someone before you consider taking things a step further. Things aren’t always what they seem.

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The “Good” Book??

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I’ve just never been able to figure out why many people swear on the Bible. It is also amazing to me about how many of those same people have never actually read it. And of those who have, is there something wrong with their comprehension skills. The Bible is full of hatred, violence, and incest!

How can this book even be considered “good”. It preaches one thing, yet obviously, there were many goings-on in there that we should overlook.

Apparently, they realized that many things were wrong back then and set out to create rules to make things right. That is all fine and good. Yet there are people today who only go to church so that they can see the bad in others. Since they go to church religiously, that makes them good, right?

How are hatred and fault-finding right? Just do good and accept others for who they are and that’s all the guidance you need.

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Who needs relationships? Can’t we just have sex?

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So, who ever decided that exclusive relationships between two people was the only way to go? I mean, cheating would be eliminated completely if we could just be with who we want to be with whenever we wanted to be with them, right? Why dedicate years of your life to just one person? Just spend some quality time together and then move on.

Sexual urges are natural and can happen at any time whenever two people experience things together. Different situations can bring people closer, like a work assignment, an accident – any number of things. If you’re dedicated to one person, you have to somehow pretend you’re not human with natural urges. How do you do that?? Slip-ups happen all the time.

OK, so I’m a married woman myself. I enjoyed a wild single life and I didn’t even think about marriage until I met my husband. I guess it’s just what you eventually do. You find someone that you think you can live with for the rest of your life. And I think that I can do that with my husband. But sometimes the thoughts are there. Not thoughts of cheating, but thoughts of why do I do things differently out of consideration of being a married woman.

I miss a lot of simple things, like being able to read a book in peace. I wish I could just eat a quick snack, but instead cook up a meal for the two of us. I want to go on a diet, but then I’d have to cook separate meals or tell him to fend for himself, and that’s not right.

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And then there’s the sex. To be honest, I wish we were having more. Much more. Our married sex has gotten down to maybe only once or twice a month, seriously. He can’t perform as well as he used to, and I don’t like to force him, so….. So, yeah, that’s why I find myself coming back to these ponderings.

 

Growing Up With a Bad Mother

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Growing up, my mother always made us feel sorry for her. We were to blame for her varicose veins. It was our fault that she couldn’t get a job and go to work. Poor mom never had money while we were kids because of us. Once we were old enough to get out and get jobs ourselves, we were required to give up our money to help support the household.

Before this, however, only Mom was able to have the good clothes. She told us that she was the one who had to look good for the family. She would then pass them on down to us, whether they fit us well or not. Come to think of it, she had plenty of money for alcohol and drugs, too.

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When we got driver’s licenses, Mom suddenly needed to be taken places. I’m not sure how she managed so well before, but now she had places she had to go. Funny – I literally hitchhiked to work at the age of 15, because I was forced to find a job and figure out myself how to get there. Mom wasn’t concerned about who it was that might pick me up. She needed money. I ended up being quite fortunate, because I was propositioned many times. Luckily, nothing happened.

My mom’s pity party that we endured as children carried on into our adulthood. My younger siblings still make themselves available for her every beck and call. They are the “Good Kids”.  I, for one, am not playing into it. She doesn’t deserve it from me.

Funny thing, when you’re young and you’re raised that way, you just don’t know any better. You are taught to respect your parents and you don’t even realize how wrong they are. It’s not until you’re older that you start to wonder how you ever thought any of that was right. I can’t make my siblings see it, though. They are all against me. I’m okay with that.

 

 

Success Can Be So Simple

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When someone becomes famous and successful for doing something that is pretty much a common, everyday thing, we all scratch our heads and wonder why. Why did this person become a millionaire for some simple everyday thing that they just happened to make note of? How is this even a ‘thing’? I could have done that!!!

Why, yes. You could have. So, why didn’t you?

Jerry Seinfeld made a success of “a show about nothing”. Why? Because this was a show about everything. Every stupid little circumstance that can happen in everyday life.

Recently, I saw a video going around on Facebook that showed how some people walked into a subway train and saw lots of graffiti. One guy decided to start cleaning it up, and then suddenly, everyone pitched in. Why did it take that one person to think of it? Well, actually, it may have crossed everyone’s mind, but it always takes that one person to get everyone motivated.

I was sitting in the doctor’s office when I saw a row of these pictures:

I thought, “Jeez! I could so easily have done this. People spend so much money on going to art schools, and yet, this is all they want? This is what people are paying good money for?

So, how have some people become successful by doing everyday things?

One way to be successful is to do your research and read what other people are talking about. There are people are making money simply from getting people like you to read about stuff that they already know. Stuff like everyday occurrences. Why? Because we can all relate to it. Look at bloggers who are getting rich just by making videos of their daily routine of putting on their make-up!

You need to step outside of the ‘reading about it’ box eventually and come up with your own ideas. You are making those people rich by reading what they write,  or watching their videos, whether what they are saying or doing is right or not. They can fill your head with how they became rich and what worked for them, when all along, what worked for them was to come up with a good storyline, then get everyone to agree with and believe in it.  

Seriously – what if there were no religion?

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John Lennon’s much loved song, “Imagine” tried to get us to think about what the world would be like without religion. People love that song, but does anyone really think about what it actually means? Does anyone really imagine what a world without religion would be like?

So many hate crimes going on the world today are based on religion. Basically, it’s all about “my God is better than your God”. So people kill over it.

Yet, it’s crazy. It’s senseless killing to try to prove a point. It’s all in attempts try to prove who is holier. By killing? Seriously?

To top it off, no God has ever been proven to exist. That’s mind-boggling! It’s also hard to believe that there are so few atheists. So many people are afraid of the consequences of not believing. As intelligent as society proclaims to be, people are afraid to not believe. Why??

So, just think about it. What if it were true? What if there were no God? Can you imagine
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Who knows? One thing that is certain, though, is that people are easily fooled. We wonder how some cults can corrupt young (and sometimes old) minds. But, hasn’t this been going on for centuries?

But, what if…?

Atheists Are Not Devil Worshipers

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Let’s get this straight: Not believing in a “God” does not mean that one worships the devil!

That was often the first thing that people would think whenever someone proclaimed themselves to be an atheist. However, more and more, the world is starting to really think about reality and wonder if there really is some guy in the sky who tells us to do good, or else! That sounds pretty harsh, I know, but that is truly what many people believe. Various religions have their own ideas of “God”. But, can anyone prove anything? Yet – how can the masses be wrong?

14095976_10209864820324757_4819318819279458748_nI honestly wonder if more people believe just out of a fear of not believing. What will become of them? What’s going to happen if they admit that some things are just not possible, and could not have happened? Will they be struck by lightning? Will they have a horrible accident?

First of all, we are all going to die. Some people are going to have more horrific and painful deaths than others. It’s very sad, but that’s a fact. No belief in God is ever going to change the outcome. No matter what you eat, no matter how you live, you’re going.  And when you’re gone, you’re gone.  OK – so, there may have actually been a “Jesus”. He was a person. He could have beem real. But, come on…! Do you really think that his parents did not have sex? Do you know how people were treated back in the day for doing the unthinkable – having sex before they were married? They were young. They were scared. The poor guy was brought up to believe that his father was this “God” person, and somehow, everyone else bought it, too!

If this “God” were suddenly to come down to Earth and say, “Hey, I’m here!”, would anyone believe him? It’s actually been done before. People have been locked up in insane asylums for doing it.

These thoughts are real and should be considered. These ideas and theories do not in any way suggest that just because someone does not believe in a “God” that they believe in a “Devil”. Rather, more people who believe in “God” believe in “The Devil”.

Looking at the way things are going in the world today, it would seem that more evil than good is being done to prove whose “God” is better. You have to wonder about their “Gods”. The more we are being forced to believe a certain way, they more we are wondering who the “Devil Worshipers” actually are.

Don’t get me wrong – it’s not bad to believe in “Something”. As a matter of fact, if a belief makes people do good, then it’s probably best for them to continue believing it. Prayer sends positivity out into the world, so if you are someone who prays, by all means, keep on doing so.

It’s nice to know that many people are waking up and actually thinking about facts and wanting proof. Science still has a long way to go, but the facts are that it is easier to disprove “God” than it is to prove “Him/Her”.